Your Basic Human Rights
To improve your self-esteem requires learning effective ways of identifying your needs and asserting your personal sense of self. Many people are unable to identify what they want for their lives. Consequently they have difficulty expressing needs to their friends, family, partner, or c-workers.
If a client appears confused and directionless, I ask them to identify what they consider to be their basic human rights. I give them this list and ask them how they express these needs to others. For the next two weeks we will examine your basic rights .Although this list is not exclusive or exhaustive, it is a clear reminder that no matter what situation you are in or who you are with, you have the right to basic human rights.
1. You own your feelings.
Feelings are neither right or wrong. They are natural byproducts of how
you experience life. There are five basic feelings that all people have
the right to experience. They are: anger, sadness, loneliness, fear and
happiness. As you reflect on your experience it is important to recognize
these feelings and handle situations constructively after identifying
your true feelings. NOTE: Most people are flooded with so many feelings
that they end up feeling immobilized by them. It’s imperative to
pick the primary feeling that you are experiencing..
NOTE: Through the course of your life, your values will change. It is normal and necessary to act on the existing value to determine what your ultimate values will be. Teenagers do this all the time to discover who they are.
Be thinking about
how your life could be different if you claimed these rights as your own!