Carol The Coach Blog

Are You Really Ready to Set Your Goals?

 

Are you one of those people who have certain goals that never seem to get accomplished?  Have you been saying for years that you will lose weight, get out of an unhealthy relationship, get up earlier or exercise and you haven’t been able to effectively master the task?  Don’t beat yourself up about not reaching your goals.  You likely have not created a plan that fits your lifestyle.  People fail at achieving their goals because of three very common reasons:

·         Lack of motivation.  Before you even get started, check your motivation.  Out of a possible one hundred percent, how motivated are you to really work at achieving your goals?  Do you really want to change?  I have clients that say they do, but when I assess their motivation, they want the goal without the work.  Give it a percentage, and if you’re under 85%, you are not ready to accomplish your goal. 

·         Assess your mindset.  Do you immediately focus on how you have failed in the past, how you can’t succeed, and how you are doomed to fail because you focus on what you will lose as opposed to what you will gain.  If you aren’t positive about the changes you are about to make, you are not ready to meet your goals.  Clients sit in my office indicating that they want to attain a certain goal, but their mindset is that the work will be too agonizing.  I have a magic wand in my office and I frequently ask my clients if they would like to use it to accomplish their goal.  They grin and tell me they wish they could have a magic wand or could be hypnotized to get, or keep, themselves motivated.  Although I do hypnotherapy, I never work with a client who is not willing to go 110% to get the work done.   Discipline, coupled with a positive attitude, builds the character assets needed to accomplish your goal. Look at your goal with excitement.  It’s important to have a positive attitude about your mission.  Are you the type of person who sets a goal and then avoids it?  To accomplish a goal, you have to psych yourself into wanting it.  Don’t look at it with dread, but as an opportunity to enjoy the changes.  Be excited that you have the knowledge, ability, skills and energy to change.  If you can’t muster positive energy, you won’t be able to stick with a plan for obtaining your goals. 

 

·         Are your goals global or specific?  Your goals need to be broken down into doable steps.  People want the quick fix—they don’t want to rely on small steps that contribute to getting the job done.  Small steps are the key to a good action plan.   Create a lifestyle that supports small goals.  If you really want your life to be different, you need to have an action plan that keeps the goal at the forefront of your daily life with very doable, accomplishable steps. 

 

What’s your plan for achieving your goal?  

·         Assess your motivation.

·         Write it down.

·         Break it into small steps.

·         Focus on what you will be gaining, as opposed to what you will be losing.

·         Be positive! 

 

If you meet these criteria set before you and follow the plan, I have no doubt that you will be successful in reaching your goals. 

So now what are you goals and what are you doing to make them happen.  

Have you formed the right mindset to make them real.

You must have the right motivational energy to produce results….find ways to get excited and blog me and tell me what you did.

Carol the Coach