Carol The Coach Blog

Welcome! I am Carol Juergensen Sheets LCSW  PCC and I wanted to share lots of valuable information that I typically give to clients who come in to see me for personal life coaching or psychotherapy. This will be my own personal space disignated just for us to dialogue about life. I have been writing as a columnist for almost 10 years.

I also am doing a radio show on WIBC on 93.1 on Saturday nights from 8-10PM. It is an advice show called Sex, Love and Relationships with Carol the Coach. I hope you get a chance to check it out!

In the meantime, I would love  for you to take this test that measures your resiliency.  It will help you measure your strengths and I am all about strengths….so take the test  and see for yourself!

The Personality Inventory Test

 

It is important to be well balanced and know your own strengths so that you can “walk your talk” in your own life. Answer the following questions to assess your own life skills.  

 

This quiz will help to learn more about your personality and how it affects your ability to manage your life effectively.  Below are ten indicators of a well adjusted “life manager”.  These indicators are reflective of your personality style.  How many of the ten life skills do you employ in your day-to-day life? 

v      Self-Enjoyment

1. Do you enjoy life, especially the simple moments?  People with a healthy zest for life are able to get excited when they walk outside, watch their children play, or pick up a good book.

v      Flexibility

1. Are you flexible?  People who go with the flow and adapt to daily changes manage their lives more effectively. 

v      Assertiveness

1. Do you ask for what you need?  Successful life managers have no qualms about delegating their work and then trusting in the process.  Contrary to what you might think, good life managers do not micromanage their employees, their children, or their spouses. 

v      Goal Setting

1. Do you strive to meet new goals?  A person who wants to better himself is always in the process of self-actualization.  They typically challenge themselves to move out of their comfort zones to experience new opportunities for growth. 

v      Reframing

1. Are you a positive person?  It is important to see the good in any situation.  This requires that you train yourself to learn from difficulties and struggles and stay positive about what they can teach you. 

v      Self-Fulfillment

1. Do you contribute to life?  Every individual needs to believe that they make a difference in this world.  Take a look at your relationships.  At work, within your family, and in your community.  Do you see yourself as having a positive impact on them? 

 

v      Mindfulness

1. Are you mindful of the moment?  It is essential to be able to spend time “just being”, whether you do this through meditation, prayer, yoga, or any activity that allows you to calm yourself and empty your mind of all the clutter that occurs on a daily basis. 

v      Feeling Identification

1. Do you recognize your feelings and deal with them appropriately?  People who are comfortable with their feelings are less likely to repress (store them), suppress (stuff them), or minimize them.  As a result, they not only have a greater sense of how they feel, but they also end up being more connected to their true selves.  When you recognize and express feelings appropriately, you have better self-esteem and you build better relationships. 

v      Balanced Lifestyle

1. Do you pace yourself and have a manageable load?  A well-adjusted life manager takes the opportunities, but balances them with rest, relaxation, and stimulation.  They do not take on too much; consequently, their energy is well maintained for their projects, family, friends, and themselves.  In other words, they don’t feel fragmented. 

v      Self-Esteem

1. Do you consider yourself to be well adjusted?  A person who has a healthy self-concept is happier and more successful in life. 

 

SCORING:  If you possess eight out of the ten life skills, you are doing a great job of managing your life.  If you identified five- to seven of the life skills that you are currently using, you might want to look at some of the other skills and work on adding them to your repertoire to make life more manageable.  If you use less than four of these life skills, you will likely need some support from a professional coach to help you to shape your life differently.