Sexuality

Make Room for Happiness

Are you moving too fast? Is there something depleting you of your energy? If something is draining you then it is preventing good things from coming into your life. Life is about balance, and when too much energy is spent in one area, you have little time to devote to other areas that might be more replenishing to you. Did you know when you feel good about how you spend your time, good things will happen to reinforce your energy and happiness? Conversely, when you’re constantly depleted of energy, you won’t get to move toward goals that keep you feeling good about life.

I frequently work with clients on eliminating stresses that drain them of their energy. Is there something in your life that you would like to “wish away”? Clients often complain, “I wish I didn’t have to work two jobs”, “I wish I wasn’t on that committee”, “I wish I didn’t have to have so much sex”, “I wish I didn’t have to live with my parents”.

You do have the power to make your life different, but it requires sitting down, strategizing, and creating goals. They can be small or large; if you don’t get help with housework you won’t have time to read that book that feeds your soul. If you don’t give up being the top producer in the company, you won’t have the opportunity to explore other job opportunities that might bring you more happiness, self-worth or peace. If you don’t get out of the addictive relationship you won’t ever meet that person who can be your companion for life.

If an “I wish” statement frequently creeps into your conscience, it’s there for a reason and needs to be honored. How do you do this?
• Write down what you need to eliminate.
• Spending five- to twenty minutes thinking about it.
• Ask yourself how can I eliminate it or make it more manageable?
• Write down a possible solution.
• Commit to practicing this new behavior for seven- to ten days.

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