Goal Setting

Resistance

My greatest challenge as a Personal Life Coach is to motivate clients to do what it takes to make their lives different. A client will walk into my office and identify what they want to be different. They will spend that first hour convincing me that they no longer want to be married, or to continue in their dead-end job, or be overweight, or be single, and yet the irony is, as we put together a formula for change, they are not willing to do what it takes to make these changes happen.

Is this sounding like you? Is there something in your life that you have desperately wanted, but you aren’t able, or willing, to create the life you deserve? Are you wondering why you give in to your own inertia? Inertia is that inability to move in the desired direction. It’s like being stuck in quicksand. Have you wanted to lose weight for years and yet only dabble in weight loss? All of your energy is consumed in “wanting it”, but there is very little energy devoted to the discipline of “doing it”.

You are not alone. As a Personal Life Coach, I assess how you support your level of inertia. In other words, your lifestyle is supporting your level of being stuck. When you devote the energy to what you really want to achieve, you can and will make it happen.

• When you develop a mindset and weight loss program that works for your lifestyle, you will lose weight.
• When you create opportunities to meet other single men or women, you will start dating.
• If you want out of that dead-end job, you will need to get aggressive about finding a new one. It may require sending out at least 21 resumes per week and setting up one- to two meetings with mentors to get the job you want.

You need to find creative ways of going after what you want until you get it. You don’t give up, you don’t give in, you don’t let up, and you don’t look back. You invest the same amount of energy into the project that equates to the desperation that you feel inside about being stuck.

Are you tired just thinking about what you really need to do to make your life different? I have a formula for creating change. Here’s an assignment that is really helpful if you’re stuck and can’t seem to accomplish your goals.

HOMEWORK ASSIGNMENT:
Do you want to lose weight? Separate from your spouse? Change careers? Then sit down and write out the following sentence 100 times, with different responses:
I can’t lose weight because…my metabolism is too slow…I have to make dinner for my family…there is too much Halloween candy still left in the pantry.
I won’t separate from my spouse because…I need my spouse financially…I don’t want to hurt the kids…I am afraid of being alone.
I won’t change careers because…I’m afraid of risk…I don’t know what to expect…I may not like it…I may not make money at it.

Make sure to write out each sentence fully. Once you have written it down, read them out loud to yourself daily for seven days. This requires about 15 minutes. This is a formula guaranteed to change your life if you do it for 28 days in a row. You must do it exactly as I have prescribed if you want it to motivate you to change.

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